Red (serrated_mind) wrote in abusedbutcaring,

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I was physically and emotionally abused by a guardian from ages 3-13 and then abused physically, emotionally, and sexually and raped by a boyfriend when I was 15. It's taken me quite some time to even be able to say that with a sort of confidence rather than shame.

That being said, I'm a senior in college and a captain of one of my sports teams. A few of my teammates seem to be in bad relationships, and I was contemplating telling them a bit about my experiences so they can feel like they can relate to someone else, and hopefully I could be someone they could go to if they needed to talk or just someone to give them a hug if it was a bad day.

My question is, does this seem like a good idea? I think I'd be comfortable enough with where I am now (in regards to acceptance of my past and with my teammates) that I could talk about it and not have it come out like I was the one who needed a hug. I know right after my ordeal with my ex-boyfriend all I really wanted was someone who had been through something similar so I didn't feel all alone. At the same time, though, I'm not sure if I would've been able to open up about it then. I also am not sure of the extent to which my teammates' bad relationships extend, and I don't want it to seem like a "green light until something goes horribly wrong" kind of thing.

Thanks, everyone.
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